The Mother at Home

Parenting...
Want to Raise your Children for Heaven? 

Apply the principles and advice laid out in The Mother at Home by John S.C. Abbott

Some have called it one of the most helpful and to-the-point books ever written outside of the Bible.
Written in 1833! This is the best book out there on raising our children for heaven. This evangelical pastor pulls no punches and tells it like it is. If we, as mothers, fail to raise our children well (think discipline consistently, EVERY time), their eternal future may hang in the balance. Our influence is that significant, according to Abbott.

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Additional Resources

• Summary Doc if you don't have time to read (or re-read) the book.
• Powerpoint Presentation

"Discipline, without love may be harsh; Love, without discipline is child abuse." - Dr. Ray Guirendi

LINKS/MORE INFO BELOW TO GO ALONG WITH THE POWERPOINT PRESENTATION

• The Four Temperaments
• Discipline Ideas (see below)
• Watch the "Worlds Strictest Parents - Utah"
• Ways to "Supernaturalize" your family's daily life
• Dr. Ray Video  "You are a Better Parent than you think!" F R E E if you have Amazon Prime
  Dr. Ray's DVD "You are a Better Parent than you think!"
  Here is a video promo for this talk:
  
  - Download Dr. Ray's Talk "Discipline that Lasts a Lifetime" fromCatholic Lighthouse Media. (Note this is essentially the same content as the DVD)

Discipline Ideas

Download this Editable list of consequences for  you to customize.  Review and post openly in your home, so kids know exactly what to expect.  

YOUNG - age 1+

• Distraction (remove from tempattion)
• Swat on the hand or bottom
• Take away toy until child conforms or for ______ time
• Time-out for ____ time

OLDER

• Go to room for ______ time, or until called. 
• Lose screen time for _______ time. 
• Black-out – take away every privilege: snacks, electronics, anything whatsoever enjoyable for day(s). If you need some work or cleaning done desperately, allow children to earn back time. 
• Swats on the behind (also known as spanking, yes, this actually works, and if you do it correctly, and not out of anger, you will be doing it less and less). 
• Handwriting Worksheets, some with Bible Verses.
  - Early Learner SORRY
  - Calling Names (manuscript)
  - Right Away Obedience (cursive)
  - Lying / Stealing (manuscript)
  - Lying / Stealing (cursive)
  - Unkindness (cursive)
  - Use of Speech (cursive)
  - Use of Speech (manuscript)
  - Be Kind (manuscript)
  - Didn't Drop the Subject (manuscript)
  - Grumbling (manuscript)
  - Right Away Obedience (manuscript)
  - Obey Parents (manuscript)

• Make your own handwriting sheets by using StartWrite Software. 
• Time-Out (with a timer - they are $1 at the dollar store) 
• Hail Mary Hug - hug sister/brother while reciting the Hail Mary prayer together. When completed child has to say, "I'm sorry and I love you." 
• Get outside and run around the house _____ times - especially good for boys. Or other physical exercise... 10 push-ups, 200 jumping jacks. 
• Take away their most special privilege or electronic or treasured item. Think hard, what does he/she love the most. Surprisingly, this might mean something wholesome like taking away books, or a musical instrument. 
• Write an essay – all privileges denied until essay is delivered. ___#-words depending on age. 
• Be your sister's slave for one hour 
• Do your sibling's chore for remainder of day or for the week. 
• Chore Jar (could color code paper for age differences) 
• Meal Time Infraction, go to bed right after meal. 
• Meal Related Infraction, lose next snack or next meal. 

"We are Catholics, we are not like everybody else and
we shouldn't expect to do the things everybody else does." 
- The late Supreme Court Justice, Antonin Scalia when speaking to his son.)